God did not like us to be lonely
 
Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
 
Lesson 3
  1. God likes companionship and dislikes loneliness.
    1. God created woman so that man's loneliness can be eliminated. Hence man should leave his father and his mother and hold fast (cleave) to his life. This design of God provides lifelong companionship and happiness.
      1. Genesis 2:21-24 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
  2. Oneness in marriage is more important than just marriage on paper.
    1. Marriage alone does not create companionship but oneness in marriage creates companionship. Oneness of heart, vision, and purpose builds strong marriage.
      1. Philippians 2:2 Fulfil ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.
  3. God dwells in unity
    1. God the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit dwell in unity. All three of them agreed to produce this beautiful world, and place man and woman on earth.
      1. Genesis 1:26 And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.
  4. Jesus spoke of oneness with the Father
    1. Jesus spoke often of his Father and his oneness with the Father. God wants us to dwell in oneness with our spouse and with one another
      1. John 17:20-21 Neither pray I for these alone, but for them also which shall believe on me through their word; That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me.
    2. Jesus and the Father acted in unity in everything they did.
      1. John 10:30 I and my Father are one.
  5. Independence in marriage is not the plan of God.
    1. Although we are complete as individuals, God wants us to support one another and get help from one another. Helping one another will make husband and wife to become better a person in Christ and fulfill the call of God in their lives.
      1. 1 Corinthians 11:11-12 Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.
  6. Destroy enemies of companionship
    1. The world does not like principles of God in marriage. Lack of love for the wife is an enemy of marriage. Lack of respect for the husband will break the beauty of marriage.
      1. Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
    2. Let no one separate what God has planned for you
      1. Matthew 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
  7. Prayer and obedience to the word of God can build oneness and restore the intimacy and companionship in marriage.
    1. Jesus always prayed that we might be one. Family that prays together, stays together.
      1. John 17:23 I in them, and thou in me, that they may be made perfect in one; and that the world may know that thou hast sent me, and hast loved them, as thou hast loved me.
 
Conclusion
  • How did God eliminate loneliness of man in the garden? Was there a better solution than woman?
  • Why does the world seek separation?
  • What was Paul's final message to couples in the book of Ephesians?.
  • How did Jesus keep oneness with the Father?
 
Self reflection
  • Name few things that destroy unity and oneness in marriage and how can improve marriage ?